Can Attention Mean Love and Commitment?
The answer, simply put, is no. Attention is not currency. Money is the only currency.
Money is a finite resource, while attention is not. It’s a common misconception that attention in the initial stages of dating is a way of saying, “I’m interested in you” or “Let’s be exclusive.”
The reality is, It doesn’t mean committed or that they’re interested in anything more. So don’t mistake it for such.
Let’s explore further.
Attention is not a finite resource like money.
Attention is not currency because it is not a finite resource like money. Just as you can’t “run out” of attention, you can’t hoard or squander it.
Someone’s attention span on you doesn’t always mean love or more than what it is – attention. Just as you can give attention to multiple people, so can they.
Attention is not something that can be saved up or used as collateral. It’s a renewable resource that is always available such as the person you’re seeing is available to other people as well.
Attention does not always mean love or exclusivity
Attention does not always mean love or more than what it is – attention. It is not something that implies a committed or monogamous relationship.
It is not exclusivity, don’t look at it as such. If you’re seeing someone and they’re giving you attention, it doesn’t mean they’re interested in anything more than a causal relationship.
It may be a little difficult to hear, but unfortunately, attention does not always indicate interest in taking things to the next level. It is not a measure of how important you are to someone or a guaranteed commitment from them.
Just because someone is giving you attention, it doesn’t mean you’re the only person they’re giving attention to. In fact, it’s quite common for people to give attention to multiple people at the same time.
Attention can be given freely and without any expectation of reciprocation.
Just as attention can be given freely, it can also be taken away just as easily. It is not something that has to be earned or reciprocated.
It can be given and taken away without any expectations. The attention you give someone is not an investment that is owed to you in the future. It is a renewable resource that is always available.
So do not expect that attention from a love interest is something that is guaranteed investment in being interested in you.
In conclusion, when attention from a love interest is given to you, don’t mistake it for currency. It is not an indication of a committed relationship or exclusivity.
Learn to take it for what it is and move smarter with what you are looking for. Use it as a way to get to know someone but don’t think too much of it.
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